Living and Loving Yourself Now and Not Only When You Reach Your Thin Dream!

With the media pushing the thin image in our society are we putting our lives on hold until we reach that thin criteria? Do you put off living until you fit into a certain size or hit a number on the scale?

This is something that I have been considering a lot lately. Why I felt that being fat means waiting to live. Am I missing out on different aspects of my life because I believe that I need to lose weight before I can participate? I know with family vacations planned this Summer, bathing suits are in my near future. I find myself thinking that I need to be a certain size to enjoy this vacation and wear that perfect bathing suit. I mean how absurd is that when you really look at such a statement? Unfortunately, I find that I do this with every big event. The push to be a certain size by the time the event arrives seems to go hand in hand with the planning concept with me. I have been having this moment of self reflection in an effort to understand why I did the Kimkins diet and why did I fall for the false marketing of kimmer and affiliates. The marketing was like the siren call for many who want to find the way to reach their thin dreams and fast. I also have been considering why I continue to have the- diet mindset -instead of a -way of life change- mindset. Then the big reason I need to consider the appeal of the thin dream is the fact that I have a 7 year old daughter that is a mirror of me and I don’t want her to reflect this back in years to come.

I stumbled upon the words from a fellow blogger while considering the reason that my mind chants not until I am thin, instead of now- just as I am! The blogger from the shapely prose did a post on the Fantasy of Being Thin

Because, you see, the Fantasy of Being Thin is not just about becoming small enough to be perceived as more acceptable. It is about becoming an entirely different person – one with far more courage, confidence, and luck than the fat you has. It’s not just, “When I’m thin, I’ll look good in a bathing suit”; it’s “When I’m thin, I will be the kind of person who struts down the beach in a bikini, making men weep.” See also:

  • When I’m thin, I’ll have no trouble finding a partner/reinvigorating my marriage.
  • When I’m thin, I’ll have the job I’ve always wanted.
  • When I’m thin, I won’t be depressed anymore.
  • When I’m thin, I’ll be an adventurous world traveler instead of being freaked out by any country where I don’t speak the language and/or the plumbing is questionable.
  • When I’m thin, I’ll become really outdoorsy.
  • When I’m thin, I’ll be more extroverted and charismatic, and thus have more friends than I know what to do with.

Et cetera, et cetera. Those are examples from my personal Fantasy of Being Thin

She the goes on to say why letting go of those thin fantasies may be difficult.

Overcoming The Fantasy of Being Thin might be the hardest part of making it all the way into fat acceptance-land. And that might just be why I’d pushed that part of the process out of my memory: it fucking sucked. Because I didn’t just have to accept the size of my thighs; I had to accept who I am, rather than continuing to wait until I magically became the person I’d always imagined being. Ouch.That is, of course, a pretty normal part of getting older. You start to realize that yeah, this actually is it, and although you can still try enough new things to keep anyone busy for two lifetimes, you’re pretty much stuck with a basic context. There are skills, experiences, and material things you will almost certainly never have, period. It’s a challenge for all of us to understand that accepting this fact of life does not necessarily mean cutting off options or giving up dreams, but simply — as in the proverbial story about the creation of the David — chipping away all that is not you. But for a fat person, it can be even harder, because so many fucking sources encourage us to believe that inside every one of us is “a thin person waiting to get out” — and that thin person is SO MUCH COOLER.


I have thought before that maybe I use the- not until I am thin, as an excuse to not fail at something or even a way to associate failure as not with them but with being fat, so I totally get what the blogger from the Shapely Prose was coming from in her thin fantasy. I agree that fat acceptance, for those that are fat, means also letting go of the idea that life is going to be so much better when they are thin. Yes, there will be improvement in some aspects of a person’s life but you will still have stress, your kids will still ignore your pleas to pick-up after themselves, the laundry will still pile up, your hair will still have a mind of its own, you will not be better at remembering jokes or names, traffic will still suck, and you will still have failures….So maybe you are as cool as you will ever be. Like the movie- Maybe this is as good as it gets! With that in mind- my focus is not only going to be eating healthy but living and loving myself now- just as I am- not as I hope to be. I can only hope that is what I see reflected back when my daughter mirrors me.

To find out more about the kimkins scam and how the kimkins diet is dangerous read the overview by Laura Dolson at about.com entitled –The Kimkins Diet Controversy .My blogroll also contains some wonderful blogs that cover the Kimkins scam and the pending class action lawsuit. If you want to learn what you can do to help then take a look at the weed pulling of articles that the blogger of Say “No” to Kimkins suggests in “Help Us Pull The Weeds”.

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Award Ceremony To Be Scheduled Soon!

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In my last post I noted the award that should be bestowed upon Heidi Diaz, the Kimmer, who is the founder of the kimkins diet and it appears that the case ceremony will be heard held in front of “your honor” in honor of Heidi Diaz. The sentencing ceremony may be long, but mug shots pictures will be immediately following the event.
It would be outstanding if Woman’s World would decide to cover the event and back story on how Heidi Diaz, the Kimmer, earned this award.
But there will be more coverage on this case ceremony. So check out the Riverside Court House documents and the other blogs on my blogroll.

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Cheerleader Award Given To The Kimmer- Heidi Diaz

Does Heid Diaz deserve an award for something that may be one of her greatest achievements? If you guessed lying I was not referring to that talent. The title gives it away…Cheerleading!…Give me a G…..

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I have reached the conclusion that Heidi Diaz, the Kimmer, must have been a former cheerleader for a team called the NADS. She would have been an excellent cheerleader too I might add, because Heidi has some of the biggest GO…NADS…I have ever heard. Heard tell of I should say.

I became acutely aware of her big GO-NADS when it was reported that she lied in her response to the California Attorney General’s office. A former member of Kimkins.com had contacted the Attorney General when they were unfairly banned from the website. The exKimkinette is also a member of the LCF boards, under the name Magicsmom, and she posted about receiving the letter from the AG. She then revealed that they also had included Heidi’s response as to why she, Magicsmom, was banned from Kimkins. Here is the post from LCF –
Low Carb Friends – View Single Post – Why the fascination with Kimmer? #13

Interesting what you find in your mailbox sometimes. I got a letter
from the Attorney General of California today. In it was a copy of the
response from Heidi about why she banned me. Oh my Lord!!!!! She gave
them a post that she took from HERE that was written AFTER I was
banned!!! Oh, I feel a letter coming on to the AG’s office. Attached
will be a screen print of the post they stole from HERE to use as their
excuse for banning me. When I find it, I’ll post the link to it. You
will see how laughable it is, because I say right in the thing that I
wrote it after I was banned. And they think THIS is a good response to
the AG? Heidi must have been hitting the Cap’n bottle the day she
cooked this up!

Magicsmom then shares the response that Kimmer had given the AG as to why she had to ban Magicsmom…..Dontcha know that Heidi claims she did it all for the other members y’all. Well, Bless Her Heart!

Low Carb Friends – View Single Post – Why the fascination with Kimmer? #13

She said to the AG the following: “Due to Ms. xxxx’s engaging in
malicious, disparaging, and false accusations within the forum area of
the website, she has been restricted from community discussion areas.
…….. Please see attached documentation of the comments made by Ms.
xxxx which was upsetting to other members and interfered with their
right to enjoy their membership.” Then she attached a screen print from
the administrative section of her website. This post of mine from LCF
on October 20th is pasted into their administrative page on my profile
and is the stated reason for my banning.

Low Carb Friends – View Single Post – Why the fascination with Kimmer? #13

Heidi didn’t send them a screen print from LCF. She copied the TEXT of my post to her own website, and edited it, I might add. She took out the part where I said I was posting for their benefit because I knew they were reading here. It was PASTED into the administrative section of KK as a description of the “private” reason I was banned. She LIED to the AG and told him I posted it at her site and it was “upsetting to other members and interfered with their right to enjoy their membership”. I didn’t post that at Kimkins and couldn’t have because I was banned. The AG’s office didn’t read it carefully, or they would have figured that out themselves.

……………..There is a slight problem with that. I wrote this post nearly two weeks AFTER I was banned. She lied to the AG and told him I posted this at HER forum.
Low Carb Friends – View Single Post – Why the fascination with Kimmer? #13

Then our buddy Rebel posts:

Is anybody having flashbacks of Sean Young’s character in Ace Ventura-Pet Detective? It has something to do with those gonads ya’ll were talking about the other night.

I was thinking the same thing Rebel! Well, not about Ace Ventura, good analogy, but I was thinking of the gall needed for such an act myself. Some would call it hutzpa, but we all know it takes a tremendous amount of audacity to do what Kimmer has done over the past few years. That and a lack of conscious has driven her to be a cheerleader when she would promote laxatives, encourage eating disorder behavior and lie about her weight loss.

Then Magicsmom breaks it down for us and note that the attorney handling the pending class action lawsuit has been given all the information!

……………………..The rub is in two issues:

1. The post she copied as the reason for my getting banned was written almost two weeks after they banned me. Oops, Heidi! The devil is in the details!

2. She lied to the AG and told them I posted it at her site. Wrong! She copied it from here! This is more than a faux pas. It is a deliberate attempt to mislead the Attorney General in their investigation. The last thing she wants is to admit to them she banned someone without cause.

I say that it could not have upset her members is because they never saw it unless they came here and read it. I have screen shots of my profile over at Kimkins proving my last post there was over a year before they banned me. Her goose is cooked! She copied a post from here written two weeks after she banned me and used it as her excuse for banning me, then lied to the AG and told them I posted it at her site. She is one piece of work.

Today I figured out how to use my Mom’s printer as a scanner, so it turns out it didn’t matter that DH forgot to take it with him. However, I figured that out late in the day, so I didn’t get a chance to go to the post office with it yet, but I’m sending it to John and to the AG through Priority Mail.

Ok, so once you can get over the sheer size of the GO-NADS that are needed to-one…lie to the AG and then two…think that you would get away with it, check out Mariasol’s blog, because she has a copy of the screen shot that Heidi sent to the AG. mariasol: Kimmer of Kimkins Lies to the Attorney General!

Now, after that I think you will agree that Heidi does deserve a Cheerleading award!

GO…………NADS!!! YAY, TEAM!!!

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The Morning Show With Mike and Juliet Discuss the Kimkins Diet but They Don’t Warn You About “Banned Camp”!

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The New Year always brings resolutions and for many this resolution usually contains the desire to lose weight, but at what cost? Not only the cost to one’s wallet but also the cost of one’s health. The FOX Morning Show with Mike and Juliet are re-airing a live show that focused on the fraudulent acts of Kimkins.com and the owner Heidi Diaz.
An internet search of Kimkins will now turn up many of the negative health effects of doing Kimkins .The blog of Kimkins Survivors shares over 100 stories of ex-kimkin members who suffered ill effects from following the WOE that Kimmer promotes on her site. But something that is not discussed as much is the banning of members with no refunds.

This point has not been talked about as often, because to many, this was not the biggest problem. I mean you can always earn another $60.oo bucks, but who is going to give you a new thyroid or heart? So the priorities have of course been – “Let’s spread the word of the health risks of doing Kimkins”, not the financial risks. But I thought now was a good time to focus on the other risk of Kimkins…………………… The dreaded Banned Camp!

Kimmer and her admins took it upon themselves to ban members at their leisure and randomly. Some even based on their avatars! No, not a joke. If you are thinking surely this gal is fibbing. Well, first I would say- You would have to be a southern to say the word fibbing. Second, I would say, NO I am telling you the truth. In fact- I will just let the words of the owner, Kimmer and her admins, demonstrate my point.

The following are quotes from the blog The TRUTH, who posted private messages that were routed to him/her by an inside source. Visit their blog for the full inside look but here are some of the quoted pm’s of the Kimkins staff.

From the owner of Kimkins-

Kimmer Wrote:

As you’ve probably read in forums I don’t like negativity threads. Not that there’s anything wrong with venting, but their tone spreads quickly and distracts from the work we’re doing here

From the PR director of Kimkins-

Tippy Toes Wrote:

Re:Handling Forum Posts/Questions
I agree. The time we are spending hunting out the nay sayers is time we could have spent helping people. If any of you admins see negative posting, by all means delete it even if you have to delete the entire thread. And report the person who posted the offense to Kimmer right away, please. We are going to start banning with no refund. Because we are a paid site, I doubt too many will pay $ to come back just to cause trouble. Thanks again, everyone. This too shall pass…

Some of the members that were being banned were longtime members and had not signed up to “cause trouble”. The members being banned were looking for help losing weight just like many people and paid good money for their “lifetime membership”! They were then banned with no warning and no support system to continue to help in their weight loss journey. Their consumer rights were violated. My consumer rights were violated!

From an admin in the same chain of pm’s from above-

SingingLass Wrote:

Something I felt i should make a note on…..is we should pay attention to questions in certain areas right now. Primarily questions in the fields the other sites are trying to claim as a negative of this plan right now…..such as calories, laxitives, children and the like. I do read the other stuff occassionally, I am not affected by it, but like to just keep tabs a bit on what is going on.

So now the admin is suggesting banning based on a members words on another site! That is right folks- For the low price of $59.95 you can have spybots put on your computer and have the admin monitor your postings on the internet. Then they will ban you based on your posting habits elsewhere. See how easy you can become a member of the Banned Camp too?!?!?

Kimmer Wrote:

Wanted to update you on the “ban” function. Thankfully we’ve only had a couple instances.
Tech guys modified “ban” so it’s only a ban from forums, chat & PMs. They still have full access to the rest of the paid site including diet, food plans, grocery list, sample menus, recipe box & How ….. Does ….When placing the ban enter the date as “2025” for the year. Previously I was told 2099 and that’s rejected. Make the public note: TOS violation, make the private note whatever occurred and also let me know

Wow, they were banning so many members they had to update and modify the banning function. It would be funny if it wasn’t a sad fact, that Heidi Diaz/Kimmer made over 1.2 milllion dollars in her paypal account in one month alone, off the members she is now discussing and banning. This figure is based on the recent deposition documents that were released. Oh, that is right I haven’t mentioned the pending class action lawsuit in this post. If you haven’t joined the Kimkins lawsuit and were a member of Kimkins please sign-up.

So she took their money and then banned them. She even was trying to get around the legal aspect of what whether she was “banning” members by allowing access to a page showing the diet and grocery list. Anyone dieting knows that you learn the diet and how to do it after the first few weeks. It is the support you get from others that makes a difference and Kimmer, along with her minions, were snatching that away from the members faster than you can say SNATT!

SingingLass Wrote:

This is another one of those shady member situations…there is no direct Tos violation or proof of going on the other board, but every single post she has made has been suspicious and snarky/challenging in some wierd way. […..]..

Kimmer wrote:

I think I will temporarily ban her “accidentally”. It’s not the posts I’m worried about, it’s the PMs she might be sending. More dissention. Let me know about Honeybee too. I’ve noticed she’s on the edge.

SingingLass wrote:

:: nod nod:: I already am watching honeybee, trying to decide what the situation is there…….[………]…….Sometimes it just is not a black and white case though, thus why i make sure to run these situations by you first before getting trigger happy.

Kimmer wrote:

I’m naturally suspicious of anyone with a “duck” avatar.

Now you know how anyone can easily become a member of banned camp at Kimkins.com I hope that you also will still remember the health risks associated with this diet too.

Don’t risk your life or your wallet on the Kimkins diet!


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The Facts of Life in the Kimkins Saga- You Take the Good You Take the Bad!

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Where is a Mrs. Garrett when she is needed?
Wow, who knew so many words of wisdom were packed into this 80’s tv theme song?!?!?
The song says:

You take the good you take the bad
you take them both and there you have
the facts of life

Maybe I was the only one allowed to watch sitcom tv or at least took away a life lesson from something besides an after school special. But life gives you good and bad situations, it will give you good and bad google searches, good and bad posts, and then good and bad days too.

It appears that some people only want to take the good that they can get from the LCF members, a.k.a- the redheaded stepchildren, but they can’t accept that there may be some bad that comes up along the way too.
Not all research will yield additional information and some leads will become dead ends.
Not every post will be pc, in good taste, or agree with the reader’s viewpoint, nor will every member’s post be a reflection of the total group.

There’s a time you’ve got to go
and show your grow’n and now you know

I don’t know about others, but I certainly feel that I have been shown a side of people in their words and their tone, displayed in recent posts, that I hadn’t seen in the past. I do feel that I know more about those people now.

When the world never seems
to be living up to your dreams
and suddenly you’re finding out
the facts of life are all about you

This seems to fit the recent posts from jimmy’s forum. It seems that guilt mixed with the stress of life was making…the world or LCF seem that that they are not living up to the dreams of some, and suddenly they are finding out the facts of life/some of the facts of the case are about them and now they want to make everything about them or their efforts to stop Kimkins.com.

It takes a lot to get them right
when you learning the facts of life
learning the facts of life….

It does take some time to learn and understand the objective of some or the person behind the words. I know I personally had placed respect for a person that now appears to have not deserved that respect, so I guess I didn’t get that one right.

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Low Carb Forum “Fascination thread”- the Red-headed Stepchild of the Kimkins Investigation?

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The idea that the LCF- fascination thread can at times become a tad, unruly or snarky is not a new theory. If the members who participated were told as much that probably would say….Yes, that is true so those who find it not to their taste, should in their own best interest, refrain from reading the thread.

But most of the time the thread participates are called “haters”, “lynch mob”, or it is implied that they are just there out of boredom; trying to find something to do while waiting for news on the legal aspect of things. This belittles every effort that has been in the past, currently and even future actions by those so called ‘haters’. That is where the defense mechanisms kick in and the members then feel compelled to defend all prior work on the case.

This scenario has happened more times then I care to remember, because quite frankly, it gets old. I have grown weary of defending the hard work that I know everyone is doing. Well, at least the ones that post there frequently. I also know there are groups that do work outside of LCF as well. I for one am feed up with those who love to read the updates and be in the know, but don’t want to subject themselves to our humor or whatever the person is condemning us for at the time.

You would think by now the members who participate in the “fascination thread” would have grown accustomed to being treated like the “red-headed stepchild” in the anti-kimkins family. Being told that yes we have been good, but not good enough! We get a pat on the head and a tongue lashing to hopefully put us in our place.

Then the scenario repeats itself again in a few weeks. Although the scenario has happened many times, one of the most shocking blows came from Becky a.k.a. Littlebit formerly of Kimkins.com recently.The following is Becky’s post on us the LCF members…..the red-headed stepchildren ………

Post- Dec 14 2007, 03:41 PM

I am actually very upset with the LCF people and the blogs for being part of driving that site out of business. In fact, I am furious!

They can like it or not, but she was not a fraud, she was successful and real, and was well within her rights to start a business selling her diet. Contrary to their misinformed opinion, anyone can sell a diet, without a doctor or nutritionist affiliated, as long as it is within minimal safe legal standards, which hers was (and Kimkins isn’t). She stated up front what the diet was better than Kimmer did (low carb, low cal, low fat), offered more support and more caution than Kimmer did, and kept calories higher, up within the range of MANY commercial diets that operate freely and unimpeded. The site cost her money she may or may not have recouped, and it certainly deprived her overnight of a stream of revenue she no doubt counted on. She has lost her business (and hopes of funding reconstructive surgery, apparently) right before what should have been her busiest season.

If they are opposed to anyone making money off of diet support, there goes entire sections of every bookstore in the country, and just about every diet board online, because they all make money to pay the bills somehow, whether in selling information, support services, ad space, or products.

If they think it is wrong to sell something without ALL the details being known first, they had better get appointed head of the FTC, and pull down half the marketing out there on the web. Better yet, become a majority in Congress, and change the rules. FALSE information, like Kimmer gave, is illegal. Withholding disclosure of info required by law is illegal. What the chicken site did is lawful marketing, whether we like it or not.

This was important to her, and a mere passing fancy to many of them, and they helped to destroy her business.

If it had had anything to do with Kimmer, WHY would the guy have taken out an ad for a freelancer to make it like the Kimkins site? After all, Heidi OWNS Kimkins, has the tech team that BUILT Kimkins, and could use that template to pop up another in a flash.

Congratulations. They ended up doing Kimmer’s dirty work for her, and managing to get her competition shut down.

They will not rest, apparently, until Tippy’s site and this lady’s site and anyplace else current Kimkins members might really fell warmly welcomed is gone.

Yet they are patting each other on the back and doing the happy dance. I am disgusted.

Furthermore, LCF still has the Kimkins diet there, with many Kimkins threads devoted to it. If the Magic Chicken Lady was dangerous, what about LCF? True, there is the Fascination thread, which has done a lot of good work, but the rest is also still there, too, and nothing to stop people from following it as Kimmer always promoted it. Tippy’s new site and the Magic Chicken site both have better bottom limits than that.

On top of that, they did to the Chicken Diet lady what they did to Tippy, and others — insulted her looks, questioned her intelligence, mocked her spelling and grammar (and that of her family), and cast aspersions on her character, her intentions and her other dealings, on the merest of suspicions, with scanty evidence. Debate over evidence is one thing, but ad hominum attacks are uncalled for.

They have even had a go at Hector Diaz, remarking that ‘maybe his elevator doesn’t go all the way to the top floor’. He has been willing and able to participate in providing valuable info to the proper people, and he comes under attack? Out of line!

I appreciate the value of the Fascination threads, and the good intentions and contributions of many people there. However, this out-of-control nonsense is exactly why many people (including Tippy) didn’t listen to them over Kimmer. The true message gets lost in the ugly noise.

Heidi is the true, deliberate scammer here. Every other player, to some extent, has been duped and used.

The ends do not always justify the means.
We are wading into people’s hopes and dreams and fears and very identity and self-definition. Shame on us if we trample and misuse and exploit that!
Then we are doing to them what Heidi Diaz has already done.
It is wrong to re-victimize the victims, just to make our case!

Now, they can have a go at me, if they like.

 

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Where there is smoke there is fire…Especially, when it comes from Kimkins

Tippy has posted that she does in fact have a website called campcarbaway(dot)com and she is excepting members. The odd thing is she didn’t mention her partners in this. Hmmmmm……………… Is Kimkins.com
a distance memory or is it a new domain? Will Kimkins
come forward with any input?
But here is what TT did say-

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Is There Another New Website?

“There is another new website and it is not the Magic Chicken diet site either. It is a site set up with the intent of providing a home to Kimkins members who may find a need for a new home soon. The site is also open for all dieters and plans. This site does belong to me and is not affiliated or linked with Kimkins site in any way.

If you would like to join this site you must first register and then be approved. Email me at baitingerjeannie@yahoo.com and let me know what user name you chose and who you are.

campcarbaway.com

Peace to all and happy holidays”