The fake After pic that Kimmer used as her photo in her avatar on LCF.
Heidi Diaz became known as Kimmer on LCF when she first began posting her “story” regarding her incredible weight loss. Now, she is known as the lying, liar that lies, after the phrase was coined by Jeanessa, the lead principal on the pending class action lawsuit against Diaz.
During this entire debacle I have not been able to relate to the behavior displayed by Heidi. Her lack of remorse, or how she would become rude when valid questions were asked on LCF, or how she would have others fight her battles in order to defend her and how she would use her own family in her deception. So when a recent poster on LCF named Deedlynn began posting on the FWK thread and I noted the same type of behavior in the evasion of questions, twisting of words, playing the attacked victim in order for others to come to her defense, I began to feel that there was some connection in their similarities. It turned out that Dee was not honest in regards to her weight loss while on Kimkins, nor how she lost the weight.
After the Dee days I began to reflect on Heidi’s lying ways. We know that Heidi Diaz is a lying liar that lies, but why? The characteristics of a sociopath provides some insight as to why she may lie and how she does so, with seemingly no remorse or shame.
The following comes from a blogger by the name of Catherine who has dealt with the destruction left behind by a sociopath in her life.
Sociopaths are individuals that lack a sense of responsibility and morality. They may be manipulative but are always consistent liars. Lying is second nature to sociopaths. And they lie just for the fun of it. In ‘Without Conscience’, Dr. Hare says that “lying, deceiving and manipulation are natural talents for psychopaths. When caught in a lie or challenged by the truth, they are seldom perplexed or embarrassed – they simply change their stories or attempt to rework the facts so that they appear to be consistent with the lie. The results are a series of contradictory statements and a thoroughly confused listener”. Sociopaths will lie and cheat to deceive for money, power, control and sex. They seldom stick around to have their lies exposed; instead, they move on to a new neighborhood or city. The lying and deception, the manipulation and conning are pervasive.
Sociopaths are impulsive and don’t spend much time considering the consequences of their actions. According to Dr. Hare “the psychopath carries out his evaluation of a situation – what he will get out of it and at what costs – without the usual anxieties, doubts and concerns about being humiliated, causing pain, sabotaging future plans…” These are the things that people of conscience struggle with when considering possible actions. Sociopaths know the rules but choose which ones to follow. “They have little resistance to temptation and their transgressions elicit no guilt” (Dr. Hare p76). Often times, sociopaths are protected from the consequences of their behavior by family members, friends and colleagues.
Sociopaths are often glib when questioned about their behavior. They are famous for not answering the question asked them or they answer in a way to confuse the questioner. Their answers can often seem unresponsive to the question (Hare p139)
I learned from reading Dr. Stout’s book ‘The Socipath Next Door’, that those without conscience engage in certain techniques to ‘keep us in line’. The techniques that Dr Stout talks about in her book are charm, risk-taking, gaslighting and seduction. Socipaths can instantly recognize someone who is trusting and have the uncanny ability to determine a person’s weak spots very quickly. Those weak spots will be exploited over and over and over again. Susan Forward, PhD. has an entire chapter of her book, ‘When Your Lover Is A Liar’, dedicated to describing sociopaths. In the book, she states ‘don’t forget for a moment that all sociopaths have one vital thing in common: an extraordinary ability to win the loyalty and devotion of the woman they exploit.
Dr. Forward goes on to say in her book “he speaks words of love that sound fabulous, and he seems completely devoted to making you happy. He’s calm, not shifty, and confident – never anxious or guilty. If he makes a blunder, he sounds sincerely sorry, and his promises are just what you want to hear”. Dr. Forward believes that ‘seduction and deception are the twin hallmarks of the sociopath.
Sociopaths don’t see you as a person but as an object. We are a means to an end for a sociopath.